First Bendrix begins the book as a "Record of Hate" (1951, 1.I.1) because he "hated Henry - he hated his wife Sarah too" (1951 , 1.I.1) however wonders whether his "hatred is really as deficient as my love" (1951, 2.II.44) and later acknowledges that his "hatred has been lost" (1951, 4.I.107) . For him it is simply the loss of love that creates what he perceives as hatred, but this too dissipates and is realized to be simply anger and unhappiness. For Sarah it leads her to hate herself as “a bitch and a phony” (1951, 3.II.75), leading others to unhappiness and failing to face her true emotions. Love at the end of the relationship seems to destroy the everyday facade and leaves behind the worst parts of our personality: for Bendrix it is his possessive jealousy, for Sarah it is his lies. Yet one cannot hate without love since “hate seems to actuate the very glands of love” (1951, 1.III.19), an idea which explains Bendrix so well, for even in his hatred he is still