It was important to share hypotheses about reality. One of the challenges we faced was how to discipline our son. Since we grew up with very different family dynamics and I missed nine months of our daughter's life, it created a gap in the passing process and my wife complained that I wasn't age disciplining appropriately. However, I had a deep desire to feel respected and included. This caused constant frustrations in our home. The second challenge we faced was resentment. Even though my wife knew I didn't choose to be deployed and when I was she felt I left her to do it all on her own. She felt she had gone from working, owning a business and always being busy to being left on an island just to serve me and then being left alone. She always hit me for my absence and how she could do things on her own. This made me feel excluded from the family, which turned my intrapersonal communication into internal sadness and then anger. ¬¬As time went on I felt like we slowly started to reconnect through interpersonal interaction by attending marriage counseling and doing things we enjoyed together again. Marriage counseling opened my wife and I to self-disclosure and listening to each other. The Sherman and