During the male privilege phase, the intimate partner used the following towards his partner: treating her like a servant, making all the big decisions, acting like the "master" of the castle”, being the one that defines the roles of men and women. In Whitaker's (2013) survey, "Centrality of the search for control in men's perpetration of intimate partner violence", the reader is described how men, during an intimate relationship, can find themselves lacking control over every single moment of the relationship . Within the intimate partner violence relationship, the man's primary desire is to also be able to control everything the woman does, including how she thinks, acts, and speaks during the relationship. However, according to Dobash and Doash (1992) they believe that men's idea of ​​control is commonly used as a "desire for power and control" during the relationship. However, during a survey by the National Violence Against Women, it was found that “women with emotionally or physically controlling partners are more likely to experience all forms of IPV (Tjaden and Thoennes 2000), and Raj et al (2004) found that women whose partners (men) had high levels of control over relationships were more likely to experience physical and sexual experiences