In the book "Alandra's Lilacs", author Tressa Bowers describes her life experience as a young mother. Losing two sons and raising a deaf daughter wasn't as easy as I could imagine. Tressa was a high school dropout and her marriage, well, that wasn't going so well either. After she became pregnant, her husband, Sug, and she moved in with her mother in a small town called Pleasant Hill, Illinois. On the bright side, Tressa's motivation was her unconditional love for her daughter, Alandra. Unfortunately, Tressa began to have suspicions that her precious five-month-old daughter was deaf. She wasn't sure where those thoughts came from until she remembered when she had babysat Sug's nephews and nieces. Say no to plagiarism. Get a tailor-made essay on "Why Violent Video Games Shouldn't Be Banned"? Get an original essay Alandra's regular pediatrician was unable to diagnose her, so he recommended that Tressa take her to an ENT specialist. It was nerve-wracking on the day of Alandra's appointment, but Tressa held on because she knew it would be helpful to know for sure whether her daughter was deaf or hearing. After the doctor finally finished all of his numerous tests on Alandra, he diagnosed her as totally deaf. However, the doctor wasn't done after saying that. She continued to tell Tressa that Alandra would never be able to speak and would likely never have a good education due to her lack of communication. Unfortunately, the doctor continued to make blunt and unexpected remarks. He finally concluded that nothing could be done to heal or help her. (Bowers, 17 years old) Tressa was very disappointed with the way the doctor told her Alandra's diagnosis. I too thought it was very unprofessional of a doctor to say things like that to a mother who just found out her daughter is deaf. He didn't have to sympathize with her, but he definitely could have taken a better approach to the situation than he did. Throughout her childhood, Alandra attended several educational programs that allowed her to learn various ways of communicating with others. He started very young with a very strict speaking program, gestures and gestures were not tolerated. Their belief was that deaf children would be able to speak just as well as hearing ones. They believed that by strengthening the oral method daily from an early age, children would definitely be able to speak well. Alandra then attended a total communication program. This was the first time she was exposed to sign language. Tressa has never been a big fan of autographs, so she never involved her daughter in signing. He had a fixed mindset on the oral method, which would work and would be the way he communicated with Alandra. After learning some sign language in that program, Alandra then attended a residential school for deaf children. Tressa and her husband had to move due to financial problems and there was nothing they could do to avoid the move. Although Alandra attending residential school was very hard on Tressa, Alandra would have benefited greatly from this program. He improved his signing skill tremendously and also started teaching his mother. Eventually, Tressa moved away once again due to her divorce and Alandra ended up in a traditional public school. I wouldn't say it was a bad decision because Alandra knew her language, it was just different from everyone else's. Personally I think the best thing was to send her to residential school. This is where Alandra learned the.